“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface but paddling like the dickens underneath.”

~Michael Caine

Friday, September 26, 2008

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Aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Stupid M*&%F*#%$, A&(^&H*&E.....

Ok, now that I've got that out I can begin my entry in a more civilized state of mind.
Men. They are lovely creatures most of the time. Strong and handsome; sweet and caring, everyday run of the mill, Grade A, 100% US Prime male. When in a relationship (emotional or operational) with one of these fine specimens, he is your protector/advocate, your rock/supporter; amongst other roles. But why is it that when something upsets the apple cart, they get all bent out of shape about it? Moping around acting as if the weight of the world is on their shoulders and heaven forbid that you ask them a simple question. You may find yourself headless. I understand that they need space and time occasionally, but being in a legally bound contractual relationship where you both are responsible for the care of minor children or an appointed assignment, it's essential that you communicate daily; regardless of how basic that communication may be. Then when you express your displeasure of the attitude that you receive from them, they get even more upset and clam up for a day or four. When will I understand how this whole thing works?

As you can see I've been getting it from both sides this week. At work and at home.
For me, stewing doesn't help so I get it out, and get over it. And, retaliating only makes things worse. So, with my husband, I do what I think is the right thing. I bring his coffee and vitamins to him like I do almost every morning. I want him to know that no matter how rough the road may become, that I will always love and take care of him. My hope is in continuing my morning routine, my actions will speak for themselves. With my colleague, I just try to understand and be sensitive even though it might be challenging sometimes. All I can do is give them the space that they need. I just wish they would ask me for it instead of being big fat stupid dummy heads about it. Being married (legally or occupationally) is not easy. But, as Captain and Tenille said "Love Will Keep us Together" I know that my levees of love will hold up, even when 'It's Raining Men'

4 comments:

steph said...

oh no...what did he do now?

steph

beebee said...

There are many challenges that accompany a REAL MAN. But just as there are challenges there are those moments where they become the "Knight in Shining Armor." Thank goodness that most of the time is spent in the middle of the two. The good certainly outweighs the bad and if we didn't have the bad we wouldn't really appreciate the wonderful....but I know that's no consolation now.....

Andy said...

For some musical context, Tammy Wynette (and the Blues Brothers) asked you to "Stand By Your Man". But if you really want to take care of your problem, just take Ty on a vacation to Reno and relive the classic line from "Folsum Prison Blues" (I'll let you figure out which one).

. said...

Seeing that you're from Louisiana I don't think highly of any levees...let alone your "levees of love"